WHY DID I WRITE THIS BOOK
& WHY DOES IT WORK?
Before I began to truly understand Emotional Intelligence, my niceness was taken advantage of in business, as well as relationships, which would leave me sad, angry, confused, and exhausted. Learning Emotional Intelligence through mind/body connection allowed me to wake up and take back control of my life in every aspect.
I had had a successful career, and now I wanted a successful life.
I had been living in a most undesirable neighborhood, on the corner of Co-dependent Boulevard and Wimp Street. Like many people, I had weak boundaries. I didn't know what I didn't know. No one taught me, but it was time to learn emotional intelligence and drawing rock solid boundaries, and sticking to them, is the first step. I wanted to learn how to know myself so well that never again would I be afraid of my own choices.
I began to evaluate my life with laser beam-like focus. I wanted to know what would mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, turn me on.. This is what I lovingly refer to as, "joyful work."
I was so excited about this work and how it transformed my life that I wanted to guide everyone who wanted to know and wanted to learn.
Being a hypnotist, I understand quite well how the mind works. I am often asked why I chose this profession after a long and successful career as an actress. The answer is simple. I absolutely love assisting people in how to use their God-given gift of a great and powerful mind in the process of healing and achieving their goals. No matter what you want to achieve, change, or heal, you must understand that the power to do this is already within you. The mind is made to reprogram itself to ways of life, belief structures, and ideas that work! My job as a writer, and as a hypnotist, is to simply guide you towards your very own super-powers, and break free of the mental chains that bind you.
My book, "The 30 Day Heartbreak Cure" is so much more than a "how-to" manual for love. It is also a "how not to" for your future. It is a guide to really understanding who you are. You will learn how to hear what people are really saying, even when they don't speak a word. It will make you the smartest, happiest, person you know. Most importantly, it will show you how to get out of someone else's head and back into your own.
So what is the secret to moving on when any relationship has outgrown its usefulness in your life? Changing your mind. That is where I come in. Most people that come to me for hypnosis or life coaching tell me they can't seem to get past something, even if it happened months or years before. I hear it all the time. Here is what I have come to believe and how I approach my work. They have unknowingly hypnotized themselves into believing that they can't. My job is to snap them out of their trance, assist them in getting back into their right mind, and headed towards their dreams again. How does this work? How do we go from "Oh God, am I ever going to find someone who will love me again?" to, "I'm free! Infinite possibilities are ahead of me! I'm so excited about my life again!"
My book tells you how.
Some of my favorite chapters in The 30 Day Heartbreak Cure are those which address the way we have fooled ourselves. Before you know it, this new knowledge becomes second nature, and not only does life become more interesting, we become more interesting. Here are a few examples and chapters of what we can do to get ourselves out of the heartbreak funk and into a life that works.
Busting illusions is like shining a light on the monsters under a kid's bed. Once the lights go on, the monsters are gone. No monsters, no fear. It is the same thing with our wild imaginations. Once you learn to get that glorious mind under control, you'll be amazed at how life and opportunities open up to you. So Get the spotlights out.
A Higher Power: You Are Not Alone.
Remember, every setback is a set-up for a comeback. Every pain has a purpose. There is never a better time to spiritually re-connect than when you are feeling lower than low. Spiritually connecting is re-connecting with yourself. Knowing God is knowing that you are loved, have always been loved and will always be loved. The option to Plug back in is there, if you want it.
Being Your Own Best Friend.
Have you ever noticed that when a relationship ends you find that your friends didn't really like your heartbreaker all that much? That is because they were standing outside of the bubble. They weren't the ones having their pants charmed off. They were worried about their friend, and witnessed first-hand the stress that you were under during the relationship. Maybe they noticed how you spent less and less time with them, and stopped talking about your feelings. Being your own best friend allows you to step outside of your own bubble and see what is really happening, as if it were happening to a friend. What would you tell her? What choices would you ask her to consider?
Get Off the Cross, We Need the Wood.
Being a martyr is a giant waste of time. It's boring. There is no fun to be had there. When we stay in relationships that are limping along, we usually end up sacrificing our own well being for someone else's. The prize fairy at the end of this life for being a martyr is as tangible as the tooth fairy. This is the time to man-up and draw your sword! You are moving on!
Bitter, Party of One, Your Table is Waiting.
When we are in a relationship with someone who isn't right for us, we don't feel like ourselves. And if we ask our friend and family, we don't act like ourselves when we are with them. We get edgy, angry, crabby, sad and lethargic. We may even feel crazy sometimes. We have to assimilate all of the things that have been said to us and start sifting out the truth. Just make sure is your truth. Just because someone else who is supposed to love you said it, doesn't make it true. A fringe benefit of re-connecting with yourself is releasing someone else's outrageous words and behavior, and having a laugh about it. And so what? That's over! You're moving on!
When the words don't match their behavior, believe the behavior every time. Learn to read people like a paperback. It is easy, and it's worth it.
Manifesting Your Beautiful Life.
When you learn how powerful your mind is, imagine what you can create! The reason your dreams seem to come to a screeching halt when you are in a relationship with an emotional vampire is because you're so busy walking on egg shells, you forget what your dreams are! Getting back into your own head shifts your focus back to you.
This is your one and only life. What are you waiting for?