Fear is Only as Deep as the Mind Allows
- Japanese Proverb
Greetings from Nashville TN!
Yesterday I was on the first flight Iíve had to take in ages. I have become used to traveling by tour bus/RV to my work with Todd and Yippi. I forgot how going through airport security, carrying heavy bags, and being crammed on a flight is somewhat anxiety producing.
I managed to keep my mind occupied reading something interesting, and my seat-mate, was a very special teen- age girl named Sabrina began chatting to me immediately. Being that I read people rather quickly as part of my job, I recognized this thirteen-year old girl as being quite extraordinary. In my mind, I saw her as someone that would grow up to do great things. She seemed wise beyond her years. Then we started talking about texting, and she turned back into the thirteen year old, and it made me smile inside and out.
Towards the end of the flight, we hit some pretty rough turbulence, which lasted for a good long while and though I didnít show it on the outside, it made me feel a bit anxious. Sabrina had been sleeping and when the very rough ride woke her up, she turned to me and said, "Isnít this the best part about flying??" This is the fun part! Itís like a ride!" then she went on ... "I love when you take off too! Feeling the jet go really, really fast right before it lifts off, itís so cool!"
Right then I realized how right she was, and how her natural point of view on things would take her far in life. I realized from a 13 year old that we have a choice to look at life and situations thrown at us in one of two ways. Scary or exciting.
All of us have things happen to us in life that can trigger anxious feelings. And because of early childhood programming from whatís said to us and taking emotional cues off of our parents fears, we learn at an early age to go right to anxiety over a variety of issues. This is one of the reasons I have such a passion for being a hypnotist. Whether through my practice or on stage, I continually have the opportunity to show people the power of their God Given gift of a perfectly good mind. Everything we learn can be un-learned and re-learned. And Hallelujah for that!
In hypnosis, we have a tool we teach called "autosuggestion." This is also known in new-age speak as ďaffirmations" They are short, concise and emotionally rewarding things we say out loud to ourselves several times a day, starting with it being the first thing we say as we wake up, and definitely before we go to sleep. Again, out loud. I also suggest writing it down whenever you are near a piece of paper, as writing embeds and solidifies a new thought in the mind.
As an example, people often try to use autosuggestion but are doing so in the negative. So instead of what you tell yourself in the negative, "I will not be nervous when I go in for this job interview," you would change that to ďI am confident and relaxed at this job interview. I feel happy and the person hiring me wants and needs my services and personality."
The most defeating thing I hear people say is, "I am a magnet for losers. Every person I end up with is a psycho or mistreats me." At which point, you can take a time out, love yourself, and auto suggest to yourself. ďI only attract kind and giving people into my life. I deserve to be loved and I am ready for healthy love to come into my life, now."
See what I mean? We can autosuggest our lives for the better in any area we need to. This is just the tip of the iceberg, of course, but it sure is a great place to start. It was nice meeting you Sabrina, thanks for the inspiration! And yes, it surely was, a fun ride!
Love For sure,